So Ava's 11th birthday was a few months ago ( sorry for the delay on a new blog ).
Ava's party was fun as always and her and her friends had a great time.
Over the last few months I've noticed changes happening within Ava and her friends.
I see that Ava is learning to say NO to be manipulated by certain friends and asserting herself more which I applaud her, I am appalled at home some people don't see the way their kids really are and yes I know Ava is NOT perfect, I know she has said and done things but we address them head on and use them as a way to guide her.
I've noticed within Ava to want to break free from being a little girl NOT completely , she still wants to dissolve chalk and use it as play make up so it gets in her air and in her ears but then she will turn around after she washes it all off and will state and try to will me that she can wear this top with those tights or pants even though it looks hideous together but you know, look hideous if you want child. I will choose my battles at this point.
Ava can handle herself online well and yes to answer this for other parents, I SEE every word she and your children types to her , even in her games she plays ( when I am sitting next to her, or I log in to check her chats for the week ) and I hold her accountable for the way she behaves even when others are trying to lead her astray from what she knows is right and wrong.
I've caught a lot of interesting conversations through animal jam and Facebook messenger (* yes my kids have Face book with the sole purpose from when our friend was missioning around the world they could speak with her at anytime and for playing games ) but again I check every few days on posts and conversations.
Sad thing is, I think if I showed some of these other parents what their kids have said when they don't think an adult is seeing they wouldn't care or they would deflect or deny their precious baby didn't say those things but I have it all saved ....... incase ............
The physical change with Ava has been mind blowing as well, she is no longer a little girl in the bodily sense, it's crazy to think in 6 yrs she will be dating !
Ava and her bestie will be performing in the school talent show doing a singing number this coming Friday ~! Lots of things happening and changing.
My main goal for Ava right now is for her to remain strong in who she is, don't let ANYONE manipulate her, even if it means losing the manipulator as a friend. For her to control her mouth ( yes she comes by this honestly from me ) and when it's best to keep quiet and just let people ruin themselves because eventually people will turn and walk away from those who tend to do others harm.
Above all, even if someone has been unkind to her, she need to be kind, she needs to weather the storm to come out the other side of the rainbow.
Ava you can fly as long as you give up things and those who weigh you down.
