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Monday, February 1, 2016

So it begins .........................



Ava is on the threshold  of turning 11, if you can believe that !

Today when she got home she informed us two of her classmates were making fun of her because she wore a sweater dress and jeans underneath it. Now the sweater is a little long but I don't consider it  a dress but I don't know much about fashion.

The two girls also were picking on her saying " Are you really going to wear that to middle school ? that kinda of outfit and that silly zebra coat ?  "

I asked Ava what was her reply, Ava said she said " no " just to make them be quiet.

OH and also her boots didn't mean anything because they didn't say  Uggs on them.

I hugged Ava and told her " You looked great today ! I wish I had such sassy clothes like that and you have your own style and what is more important than how we look ? "

Ava - " what's inside "


Me -  That's right and today those girls had an ugliness in them and one day someone is going to do it to them  BUT I expect you to do the right thing.



I know Ava isn't perfect but she knows that teasing someone because of clothes is a horrible thing to do. WE CHOOSE NOT to buy over priced boots and clothes, THERE IS NO POINT to it  but my kids look pretty dang good when they leave the house.

Building your child's armor and their ability to withstand others cruelty  is the MOST important thing you can do to get them ready for the onslaught of middle school and high school.

Parents YOU NEED to see and KNOW how your child behaves when YOU are not around. I guess the one thing that keeps Ava in check is that she has a shadow and that shadow is  a 6yr old neighbor girl who  LOVES , LOVES Ava and looks up to Ava ( and of course the man upstairs ) and wants to be like her so much. I get a lot of compliments from other parents in our neighborhood about how Ava is so gentle and kind with the littler kids but we don't raise her to be kind for compliments, we raise her to be kind because it's the human thing to do.

And if YOU see Ava behaving in a way that is wrong, I would appreciate knowing so I can address it and she can learn a lesson from her behavior. I have caught her once or twice being snide or not so nice with some and she made her shadow cry once  and I called the the girl  and Ava over  and explained to  Ava how to explain to the child that she needed a break but would be out to play later and the funny thing is 6 months later this same girl who is Ava's shadow said the same thing to another neighborhood child, " I need a short break for a few minutes to rest, I will be back out later "chain reaction of having better communication.


We can't be there every waking moment but I want to know her armor is strong to be able withstand these mean girls that are there now and the meaner they get when they get older


You can do this AVA !

I love you

I'm proud of you
Don't let them get to you, these moments won't matter in 20 yrs, the only thing that matters in 20 yrs are the friends who stuck by you and would tell these mean girls to get lost.