adjective
1.
conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.
Yeah that word doesn't exist in my life or in our house.
So the kids started school almost a month ago and things have been smooth sailing so far with a couple of hiccups.
I often wonder what it is like to have children that don't have to be reminded EVERYDAY to do the same thing over and over, is it nice to have kids who have learned their routine after 4 yrs ? Cause I wouldn't know.
I have a child who will only eat like 10 food items
What's it like to tell your child 2 or 3 times that a bee won't hurt them and have them just accept it and trust you - instead of 2 years later still running terrified into the house every time anything buzzes by. I wouldn't know
What is it like to not to have to wash your 9 yr olds hair cause of motor skill issues ? I don't know but I feel I need to or he won't get the soap out of his hair.
What's it like to have children who will NOT sit still or not stop making grunting unhappy noises at any surprising noise ? wouldn't know
What's it like to have a child who WILL NOT ASK his best friend " Are you poor ? DO you live in an apartment because you are poor ? " I have NO CLUE what that's like.
BUT THESE are things I do KNOW
Once they get it and learn it they will run with it and I will miss having to guide them.
I do know that I have heard some whopper stories, frustration and all and they will learn in time
I know that him Being terrified of bees will lead him to study them and understand them.
I know I have to let go and just let the soap get in his eyes, he will scream but the water will wash it away
I know that I will always know if he is in distress or unhappy
I know that I have a child who's curious and who will tell the truth and not sugar coat anything
What would I give for normalcy ?
There is rarely a day where I don't learn something new. I have one child who can do mathematical problems beyond his years and it amazes me. He creates comic books and characters. I have a son who will go and research something without being told or design his own excel spreadsheets to keep track of goals.
Yes he grunts or makes ugly noises if startled or annoyed or interrupted but he also gives the best squishy hugs. Yes he did ask his best friend if they were poor, sigh but with some extra guidance we told him why we don't ask people this and he did ask his friend for forgiveness and told them he was just curious.
I have a son turning into a young man who loves God, our church, family and neighbors. He's on his own path and sometimes it's hard to start letting go. I often worry about the middle school years, those are hell years because he's not so autistic that he doesn't understand popularity because believe me HE KNOWS and UNDERSTANDS IT
I have an almost 10 yr old who will still crawl into our bed every morning to have a good snuggle fest and he tells me of his dreams he had the night before or a new idea for a video game.
I have the greatest son who is smart, kind, loving, funny, quirky, autistic, temperamental, compassionate and learning to spread his wings to fly.
I have a girl who makes me laugh so hard sometimes that I cry. The things that she says and does it hilarious. She is my social butterfly.
I have a girl who is smart and clever but she is also bouncing off the walls most days, a body part is moving at all time except tv time and sleep. There are days that she exasperates me but I love her beyond words and I take deep breaths and say this was you, this was you at this age.
I feel with Ava that when she was younger I put expectations onto her that I shouldn't have to make up for Logan's inability in some areas because of his autism so this has caused her to have some anxiety issues already and for this I feel like a suck parent.
I have this beautiful girl with these BIG brown eyes and people have often said she has Disney princess eyes. She's beautiful also because of her spirit. Her spirit is so free and kind. I refer it to the wild horse syndrome, she is wild, whacky and carefree but she needs to be reigned in a little more.
I have this girl that is modest and knows right from wrong, she has a passion for Jesus and a heart of gold. She doesn't like violence and will weep even at the site of Moses killing a slave driver ( Bible mini series ). I often wonder if we have done to good of job in NOT letting them be desensitized to violence but then the that thought goes away. I am glad they respond the way they do to violence, it's not natural to watch something violent and not be affected.
I have this beautiful spirited kind, loving compassionate clever, smart and humorous child that will grow into a young lady who wants to change the world for the better, I know she will be the hands and feet , at the same time in the middle of a conversation she will blurt out " We should not pick our noses in public " ??????
I have a husband who I love , I can't imagine my life without him.
There are days when I was tripping over power wheel parts, tools and other gadgets. The husband who won't let me throw anything away cause may only use it again every 5 or 6 yrs.
To my husband who stands by me during the days I feel like I am losing my mind or the days I am tired, he's pretty awesome.
To the man who soups up power wheels to have the kids go faster and tree swings that make the kids go higher and screaming with joy or a self propelled lemonade stand, he's a pretty amazing dad.
Don't get me wrong, he does drive me batty but hey we're not normal, NOT by a long shot.
I mean we have a cat that will walk with us like a dog and follow us to the bus stop twice a day for the kids and is NOT afraid of dogs or cars.
I have one cat that ACTUALLY DEMANDS my affection, yeah if that's normal than pigs are gonna start flying.
We have a dog that is a nutcase and runs around crazy and can hop like a cricket.
Me ? yeah I'm definitely NOT NORMAL, never have been.
I blurt out things when it has no place, I might ask questions that offend, I used to be pretty free spirited, growing up and being an adult has taken some of that away.
Logan and Ava are the ones who are teaching me about compassion cause that is something I didn't have much of before having them. I am a social butterfly but I do miss social ques , which is a mix of Ava and Logan.
I have a theory of my house is not a showroom yeah so watch out coming in the door you might trip on something ( not really but it's not a spotless house ) I have more important things to do with my family.
I'm not the skinny bouncy girl I was 22 yrs ago but I'm still happy, most of the time. As long as my husband is happy, kids are happy then I'm happy.
So some might say wow SO NOT NORMAL, but it's normal for us !
