I don't know if it's because the girl is jealous of another friendship Ava is involved with or what but some pretty ugly things have been said to Ava.
Now we all know how girls can be, and this is what I hate about girls !!!
I told Ava late last week when this started to turn the other cheek, that person is going to say what they are going to say, nothing she can do about it. Jealousy can be an ugly thing.
Today, Ava, Logan and a few other girls were playing in our backyard. When everyone went home, Logan let is slip they formed a club against this girl who has turned into a " mean girl " Ava shouts " LOGAN! YOU'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO TELL " and of course nothing can be easy on my Saturday , right ? lol
I sat the kids down and I told them that this is NOT a wise choice and I know they don't like what is being said to them and about them BUT IT IS THEIR job TO NOT conjole or plot against this girl. Logan states they are doing it to protect themselves, they are standing up for themselves.
I explained the best way to do that is to pray for this girl who obviously is lacking something in her family life to where her lying is tolerated ( her mother has told me herself the girl lied so much in their old neighborhood everyone stopped paying attention to her) and this behavior is deemed okay. The other course of action when they come across her and she starts talking smack is to ignore her and walk away.
I explained to Logan and Ava is they do ANYTHING ELSE then they are NO better than what she is doing to them. People are always watching to see when a Christian will fail and mess up and since they are Christians they are held to a higher standard and as their parent I EXPECT them to have a better way of handling these situations.
I know parents don't want to think their kids do bad or unsavory things but guess what ? THEY DO, even mine but I have to step in and guide them in the right direction.
Needless to say I feel like saying a few words to this girl and her mother since we generously opened our home, had fed this girl when she has claimed she had no food at home, let her spend the night cause she doesn't want to be at home and this is how this child treats generosity?
But I have to keep in mind, she is just that, a child. PERIOD.
I hope Ava and Logan put to use what I have guided them with in this situation cause if I find out they have spoken to this girl in an ugly way, there will be some sore butts in the Foster house !
Point is, even at this age, treat people how you want to be treated, PERIOD
